4 THINGS YOUR INNER CHILD REALLY NEEDS TO HEAR

Our early ages in life define who we are as adults. As children our reality becomes our truth, because we do not know anything else. Whatever happens to us and around us as children is what is. Children do not question what happens, and are so pure that they instead blame themselves for whatever goes wrong. 

As we grow up this is what we carry with us. This is what becomes our glasses from which we view the world from, and what becomes our reality as adults. It is the mirror from which we view ourselves also.

When we decide to start healing ourselves and our inner child, we can make a difference inour future relationships. We all are actually just children masquerading as adults. We mirror our parents in our partners, and in that way we replay our past in our current relationships trying to fill in the void of the past. 

The void that can be not being seen, heard, understood or accepted unconditionally. These are the four basic needs a small child has. To be seen, heard, understood and accepted unconditionally. If we do not get these needs fulfilled as children we will continue trying to get these needs fulfilled in our adult relationships. This goes for our partners also. When we heal our past, whatever that might be, and our inner children then we can start having healthy relationships as adults.

So for today start with embracing your inner child. Sit in silence and see her, listen to her, be still and compassionate. You did your best, you didn’t know better. Understand whatever happened, did happen based on the conditions and circumstances of your upbringing. If you would know better you would have done better. This is the work. To heal and lean in to accepting what happened, even if it will take years, let it take years. We are not in a hurry. Always stay compassionate as you would be with a child. That is who you’re healing.